The movie was starting in about 10 minutes. But another show was already playing.
A man and his teenage son were sitting in front of me. A woman and her daughter walked up to their seats where the man introduced the two of them to his son. It was clear it was an awkward moment for the son. They all sat down with the son sitting between his dad and his dad’s date. This was quickly followed by the son leaving and coming back to the theater several times with the man and woman chasing him down some of those times.
People want to connect, but it is usually awkward and uncomfortable.
Visiting a Small Group for the First Time
Do you remember the first time you attended a small group meeting? You probably entered an unfamiliar place. The people were a group of strangers. You didn’t know what to expect.
Showing up to a small group for the first time can be a scary experience.
Small group members can help replace this scary experience with an enjoyable one for visitors. To do this, group members need to be intentional in creating the enjoyable experience.
How to Welcome Visitors
Here are a few ways to make the small group experience more enjoyable for people visiting for the first time. Be intentional about including these to help put your visitors at ease and make sure they want to return again and again.
Make It Easy to Find the Location
Always give clear directions and a phone number for anyone who expresses an interest in attending your small group meeting. Be sure the address can be easily seen by drivers from the road. Use things like signs, lights, and/or open doors to show they are at the right place. If they get lost or aren’t certain they arrived at the correct location, they will not initially be in a great mood or may leave without giving your small group an opportunity.
Meet and Greet With a Smile
Have each visitor met with a smile. Make sure they are introduced to several group members before and after the meeting. Listen for any areas of interest that they have in common with any of the group members. This will help build a relationship right from the start.
Consider establishing a greeter role in your group. This person would be responsible for greeting everyone as they arrive and talking with visitors while introducing them to the group members.
Wear Name Badges
Getting inundated with a bunch of names to remember all at once is overwhelming. If everyone is wearing a name tag it takes away one more thing that can lead to worry and distraction for your visitors.
Provide Them Details
There are many questions going through the mind of a visitor:
- Am I expected to answer questions?
- Where is the bathroom?
- Could I be friends with one of the small group members?
Take the time before the meeting or at the beginning of the meeting to share what they can expect. This will help end anxiousness so they can settle in and enjoy their time with the group.
Discuss the Group Covenant (Agreement)
Always carry copies of the group covenant with you. Give a copy to your visitors. Quickly discuss the key points, including the importance of confidentiality, and get their agreement. This is important not only for your visitors to feel safe participating but also to maintain a safe environment for the rest of the group.
Pray for Them
Find an opportunity, in private or during the group meeting, to ask how you can pray for your visitor. Then pray right there. Don’t just say you will pray for them. They won’t know whether it happens. Show you care.
Visitors are not going to return if it doesn’t seem that the group enjoys being together. If your group is not having fun when members get together, discover changes needed by doing an assessment.
Visitors should not leave the meeting without all of the group members letting them know how thankful they are that they spent their time participating in the group. People are busy and it is a big deal that they chose to use that time with your small group instead of doing something else. They need to know you appreciate them.
Invite to the Next Meeting and Event
Be sure you let your visitors know you look forward to seeing them at your next gathering. If there is a special event planned for the group, let your visitors know about the event and encourage their participation.
Get your visitors’ contact information if you don’t already have it. Don’t let more than a couple days go by without calling them and:
- Thanking them again for visiting your small group
- Asking if they have any questions
- Reminding them you are praying for them
Each of these items will show love for your visitors. It will be hard for visitors not to be drawn into your group as they experience the love for Jesus, for each other, and for them.
Question: What was your experience attending your first small group meeting? You can leave a comment by clicking here.
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I wasn’t sure what to expect. I had never had small group instead bible study on Wednesday nights. I was apprehensive. My wife is a volunteer on the Sunday greeting team with the small group leader. She knew at least one person. Once at the meeting, she knew other greeters from her Sunday team and she immediately felt comfortable. Not me! I had to meet each person. That was a challenge due to shyness of strangers. I forced myself to smile and greet each member as they asked me tons of questions. I had been a Christian for a very long time and didn’t want them thinking this was a newbie. With all the pressure and anxiety what did I do? Self-edification! Yes, I glorified myself and not Jesus who deserves to be glorified. Lesson learned. Thank you, God, for allowing me the opportunity to be in that situation so that I could fail and learn from that failure. How is the group and my relationship? It is wonderful. I have tons of close friends. Working on a possible earthly best friend. Surrounded by people who believe in Jesus and take that commitment serious. I have gained another mentor. I have become a mentor. I recommend small groups like recommend breathing.
Thanks for sharing about your experience. I am excited you didn’t let the uncomfortable feeling of being in a small group for the first time keep you from the experience. I am also glad it has become such a positive influence in your Christian walk.
If you are willing to answer one question from me that other small group leaders can learn from… What things pulled you into staying with the small group and what things could have been improved from the perspective of a brand new visitor?